Let’s chat about the comparison game.
Have you heard the saying comparison is the thief of joy? I am sure you have. There are cute hand-lettered versions of it all over social media.
Most of us believe this statement is true, but for some reason, we still feel the need to compare ourselves to strangers on the internet. We see these perfectly curated versions of other people’s lives and then think of our own. Messy. Imperfect. Outdated. We’ve become acutely aware of all of the things we don’t have and become dissatisfied with our lives.
I am no stranger to this. Believe me.
One night, almost two years ago, I flung myself across the bed crying. The bad ugly kind of cry. I was very dramatically venting to my husband for the billionth time. At this point, I was still working at Trader Joe’s and the idea of being a full-time photographer seemed so far out of reach. He turned to me and said in a firm voice,
“This is not okay or healthy in any way and you need to stop it.”
I let out a long sigh and closed my eyes. He was right. I knew this. I knew that I was obsessing over every little detail of social media. I would let myself get SO discouraged if a photo didn’t get many likes. I would be unhealthily consumed with thoughts of how and why other photographers were getting more likes and followers.
Tough love was what I needed to shake me awake.
So now it is my turn, as your friend, to give you some tough love and tell you that enough is enough.
You have a wildly beautiful life waiting for you. Open up your eyes and see it.
That moment changed everything for me. I realized that the success of another didn’t mean failure for me. I learned to celebrate the progress of others and allowed it to inspire instead of discourage me. Not even three months after this mental shift, I moved to full-time photography.
Friend! It is time for you to thrive in life and appreciate the wildly beautiful world that surrounds you.