I am so thankful for my marriage every single day. I say that with 100% honesty. Now, I didn’t say easy. But most great things are worth working for. Every month I share 5 prompts to help you connect with the person you love most as well as a tip to cultivate a healthy beautiful marriage.
And this month’s tip: Regular Check-Ins
Now I know that sounds SO unromantic, but it doesn’t have to be! But first, let me explain what a check-in is. It is time set aside to assess your relationship. A time to ask how you can be loving the other person better, reflect on the past couple of months and talk about what is working and what isn’t, and set goals for how your relationship can improve.
Having this time is so important for the health of a relationship. It helps prevents unmet needs and unmet expectations from turning into big issues. It creates a regular time to learn how to love your person better, express unmet needs if there are any, and encourage your spouse in what they have been doing well!
Conversations like this can sometimes be icky. And that is often because we let our emotions get bottled up and issues fester. But having specific times like this to check in with one another eliminates so much of that! We can calmly and kindly express what is needed because we know that our spouse loves us deeply and wants what’s best for us.
Remember when I said this didn’t have to be unromantic? Use this as an excuse to take a fun day trip or weekend retreat! You can do this however often you can but I wouldn’t recommend any further apart than 6 months!
Lastly, I wanted to say that if there is something that is REALLY bothering you do NOT wait until one of these check-ins to express it. In fact, I say try to talk about is as soon as possible. Then the conversation can be something like, “hey babe when you did ______ it really hurt my feelings” and then they can say “I am so sorry I didn’t mean to. I’ll try to be more careful in the future.” And then you can move on without letting it fester!
I hope this little tip helps you cultivate a thriving marriage! Enjoy the prompts below!