One of the biggest things I love about being a wedding photographer is the stories. Each couple has one. And I love meeting with newly engaged couples for the first time and listening to the “long version” over coffee. I love all of the little details and like what they were thinking, who made the first move, and all that good stuff. I seriously cannot get enough of it. Often at the end of these coffee dates, my couple’s will ask, “what about you?”. So I decided it was time to share the story of how Kyle and I fell in love too. All the way from “hello” to “I do”.
If you’ve ever met me in person you know that I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can’t help it. So as we continued to hang out He saw the change in me. And so did everyone else. We lit up around one another. And they would roll their eyes when we would say we were just friends. But we still hadn’t talked about how we felt. It got to the point where it was just dumb that we hadn’t acknowledged it. He knew. I knew. Everyone else knew.
So I devised a plan. Karl (still one of Kyle’s roommates) was dating one of my roommates. I was taking them to the airport for Thanksgiving break. I told my friend to tell Karl that he should ask Kyle to tag along. But casually, of course. Whether or not Karl was casual, Kyle agreed to come. Which meant for the car ride home it would just be the two of us.
The plan worked flawlessly. When there was a bit of silence Kyle announced, “I think there’s something we should talk about.” More silence. And then he blurted out, “ I like you and I know you like me too.” And I said, “oh do you now?” while smirking at him out of the corner of my eye. And then we burst out with endless giggles. It was such a relief to finally have it out in the open.
But then we had to decide what to do about it. The no dating policy was still in effect. We were in immediate agreement that we didn’t want to sacrifice our integrity with a secret love romance. So we decided just continue to be friends for the semester.
After Thanksgiving break, I told my I told my boss. She wasn’t surprised and basically said the same. Don’t worry. Have boundaries. And we did.
It was a delightfully strange time. Where all the feelings were out in the open but were expressed only through eye contact held a little longer, walking together to class, and surprising one another with coffee and a sweet note.
One of the first times we hung out after the talk. I was giddy.